Instant communication isn’t always a gift. How many times have we regretted responding too swiftly with words that were overstated because of the heat of the moment?

When we’re hurt or angry, it can be helpful to write out our feelings. This can serve as a release for our anger or our tears. It can also clarify our thoughts and help us to see if our response is rational, dignified, respectful, proportionate, and ultimately helpful to mutual understanding and growth.

Sometimes we should send it. Sometimes we should sleep on it for a couple of days. Sometimes we should show it to a trusted friend who is a mutual advocate and see if they could offer wise counsel. Sometimes we should revise and send. Sometimes it’s better to simply delete it.

Tap the brakes.

My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.

The Bible, James 1:19-20